Hello my fellow Victim, Survivor or Thriver (VST). I’m one of your sisters in the journey. It is my prayer that because you have been led to this 12-day inspirational plan, that God will use me to awaken you to the powerful possibility of life on the other side of your abusive relationship.
With the pandemic hitting, as a now-Thriver, I have not been able to shake from my mind the women who ended up locked down with their abuser for months on end. I can still recall the eggshells that I walked around on in my own home under normal circumstances. So it grieves me to know that so many women are in daily torment. In normal times, a woman’s place of safety and escape was work but now with the world shut down, these women are simply stuck.
C => Is he CRAFTY with making the irrational seem rational?
R => Does he REFUSE to accept responsibility and blame you for HIS actions?
A => Does he ASSUME the role of sole decision-maker?
Z => Does he ZERO in on YOUR past mistakes?
y => Does he YANK at the foundation of your mental, physical, and spiritual stability?
Now, I’m not sure how many of these signs you should consider whether you are experiencing abuse that will become detrimental. However, I at least want you to look closer at your situation if you feel something's not quite right but might not be able to put your finger on it.
Now before I get ahead of myself, I should probably tell you a little bit about me and why I can be a guide on your Path to R.E.S.I.L.I.E.N.C.E.
I’m TeeJ Mercer. I wear many hats that enable me to live out my purpose which is to love on God’s kids.
For some, they know me as the TV Editor/Producer who spent 25 years in Hollywood where millions have seen my work for networks like ABC, NBC, MTV, VH-1 and more, and for shows including The Tonight Show, The Bachelor, Swamp People, R&B Divas, LA Hair, My Cat From Hell, Bar Rescue and more, and for films like Shrek, Cars, The Incredibles, Night School, and 2020’s Shaft, just to name a few.
My live and online audience knows me as an unapologetic #JesusFreak who earned the moniker The Walking Exclamation Point because of my seemingly endless energy.
Plus, despite staying in trouble in school for talking too much, I now get paid to run my mouth as an international speaker who has loved on folks through my computer screen in the U.S. and Live all the way from Lagos, Nigeria.
My Media Mavericks know me as the Chief Noisemaker. I coach them to book themselves on media outlets like ABC, CBS, NBC, FOX, to rock their interviews as they dispense their genius to serve all kinds of audiences, and I help them captivate their audiences while telling their stories from physical and virtual stages.
Some folks have found themselves standing in line to get one of my patented hugs as The World’s Greatest Hugger. I assure you that I have testimonies to back up my claim.
More recently, there is a whole new crop of folks who have embraced me as The Celebrity Bingo Boss. Several weeks into the pandemic, God gave me the assignment to host a virtual Bingo event that I thought was only going to be 1 night with 10 games and a $100 pot. Six weeks later, I had given away almost $10,000 in cash and prizes due to the generosity of my players.
That Bingo idea led to a series of Bingo games during the month of June where my Bingo Squad and I managed to raise over $1 million in cash and prizes to give away to the 2020 grads of HBCUs (Historically Black Colleges & Universities). In a word, it was epic and it earned us the tagline, “This ain’t yo grandmama’s Bingo.”
With all that said VST...
The best part is that there is a 9-year old little girl and a 3-year old little boy who simply know me as their TeeTee who loves french fries and black-eyed peas.
However, because my life is vastly different and I now live with such joy, laughter, love and transparency, a lot of my people don’t know is that there was a 3-year period of my life where I completely lost who I was. My current bright light was barely a flicker and was almost extinguished by my then-husband.
Never in a million years would I have ever thought that I would become a statistic, almost losing my life several times to a man who I thought loved me.
Yet...that’s exactly where I found myself one night back in November 2009.
VST please take 8 minutes and listen to my story at the top of the page so you can have an understanding of why I’m so #ThankfulILeft.
And if my story resonates and you’d like to take a journey with a Thriver who knows…
What it feels like to start over
What if feels like to walk away on eggshells
What it feels like to feel like a failure
What it feels like to file bankruptcy
What it feels like to lose a child
What it feels like to pick up the pieces
What it feels like to experience shame over a divorce on your record
What it feels like to wake up to God’s love and forgiveness
What it feels like to allow God to walk with you through your healing
What it feels like to finally turn the corner and have your light return
What it feels like to be so healed that you forget that part of your life
What it feels like to want to help women get to the other side of abuse.
VST, if you know or even THINK you could be a victim of domestic abuse, whether physical, verbal, or emotional, please grab this FREE plan. It is based on my third book, The 6-Figure Battered Wife: My Path to R.E.S.I.L.I.E.N.C.E. Please, let me take your hand and guide you on a 12-day journey on YOUR path to resilience that includes supporting scriptures to encourage and empower you as you wake up from the “spell” that your batterer has had you under.
Because your safety is paramount to me, I would be remiss if I didn’t warn you to be cautious. If there is the slightest chance that your abuser will see your emails and be triggered, I implore you to set up a new email (gmail is free) and use that to register. You will get daily emails from me for 12 days and I need you to be safe.
Once you sign up, you will immediately get your first email with your Day 1. It will come from an address that ends with “ISeeMeOnTV.com” and the subject line says, Day 1 of 12 - The Backstory. See you soon for your first day on your Path To R.E.S.I.L.I.E.N.C.E.!
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